| When our self esteem is low, we tend to have the | | | | So at the end of each day, write in a journal or an |
| habit of picking at ourselves. Little self criticisms enter | | | | online blog at least three things that either you did |
| our thoughts constantly, and a lot of the time we do | | | | today or ways that you are, that are things that you |
| not even realize we are doing it! We just feel crumby. | | | | can feel good about or proud of. Maybe you were |
| It is simply a bad habit to pick at your self, but since | | | | kind to someone or did a task very well, or resisted a |
| that makes us feel sad and incompetent it limits us | | | | temptation, or just simply did your best and tried, even |
| from doing all we can in life. When we notice we are | | | | if things did not turn out well. What kinds of things do |
| doing self criticizing, we can argue with the criticism | | | | you admire in other people? Did you do any of those |
| and that helps. But if each evening we just think of | | | | things today? What qualities did you admire in your |
| three things we can feel good about ourselves, that | | | | parents? Do you take after them in any of those |
| would go a long way to building a more positive habit | | | | ways? Are there other ways you chose consciously |
| of looking at ourselves in terms of the good, rather | | | | not to be like? Have you avoided addictions or crime? |
| than the bad and help us in life. | | | | We already have many qualities we take for granted. |
| We deserve to have better self esteem. And the | | | | Perhaps you received a compliment or two today, or |
| stronger we are, the more we can help others and | | | | a thank you note, and those are also good things to |
| want to help others, so we should never feel guilty | | | | note. Do remember all these things in your daily life. |
| about feeling good about ourselves. It is not selfish. | | | | Write three things a night for a week to start and then |
| There is a big difference between healthy self esteem | | | | try to make it a whole month slowly and slowly. Every |
| and being egotistical or insensitive to others. The egoist | | | | person has value, every single day. You especially |
| usually does not feel good about themselves. Their big | | | | need to write three things on those days when you |
| words about themselves is a cover up how small they | | | | feel less good about yourself, but if you miss a night, |
| feel. Self esteem is often quiet. Some person with | | | | just start again the next night. In a month you will have |
| good self esteem is not threatened by others criticizing | | | | a little collection. It can be a good thing to re-read when |
| them. With healthy self esteem they can laugh at their | | | | you are feeling low. And will feel a noticeable |
| own mistakes, rather than having mistakes make them | | | | difference as you go through your day. |
| unhappy and sad. | | | | |